With the release of the new movie, “50 Shades of Grey,” all of the buzz surrounding the blockbuster film has centered on Christian Grey and his need to have kinky, sexy things done to him. While the movie may be pure fiction, it hasn’t stopped fans of the book from portraying Christian Grey as a sex-crazed maniac who enjoys domineering his female submissive, primarily Emma Watson’s character, Anastasia Steele. In the eyes of the mainstream media and many of his fans, Christian Grey is a success story; however, there is more than one side to this story, and it’s one that most men are not talking about. In this article, we will discuss the damaging effects that Christian Grey has had on the sex lives of men and their partners, as well as offer some insight into whether or not he is a victim himself.
The Problem With Christian Grey
The crux of the problem with Christian Grey is the fact that he’s not one person, but rather a collection of impulses and desires that have manifested into a single individual. In actuality, he’s a whole lot more complicated than that, as he has a long history of being sexually abused as a child, as well as having an emotionally absent father. As a result of all of this, he developed an addictive personality and was unable to maintain healthy, stable relationships with women, which led him to resort to taking out his frustrations and sexual desires on his male sex partners. In turn, his abuse caused him to become highly manipulative and controlling, as well as to develop a taste for luxury and power.
Why The Mainstream Media Is Portraying Him As A Sex-Crazed Monster
While most people are familiar with Christian Grey through the media, not too many are aware of just how much harm he’s caused. To that end, it’s high time that the general public learned about Christian Grey’s sad history, and how much he’s changed both as a person and a domineering sex partner. For starters, Christian Grey’s childhood was rife with sexual abuse, which he himself acknowledges. He was first sexually abused by his stepfather, when he was nine years old. It continued for years, with his father and paternal grandfather also participating in the abuse. In an interview with Rolling Stone, Grey stated that his father would watch as his uncles “took turns on me” and that there was “never enough” of anything related to sex.
It wasn’t until he was 17 that Christian Grey came to realize that what was happening to him was wrong, and even then, it took him a good while to get help. In the meantime, he experimented with alcohol and other drugs, leading him to question whether or not he wanted to be a part of this world anymore. Once he found the strength to speak up, he told his family that he no longer wanted to be alone with them and asked to be taken in by a family friend. From that point on, Christian Grey started seeing a therapist, as well as taking some classes at an adult school, where he learned how to cope with his emotions and desires. By the time he reached his mid-20s, he was completely committed to changing himself for the better, and he even sought the help of a professional, who helped him form a plan to bring him the life he wanted.
The Real Story Of Christian Grey
While the mainstream media has painted an image of Christian Grey as some kind of sexual deviant, he actually started out his life as a somewhat normal, if troubled, high school student. In actuality, he had a good relationship with his parents and was an average student, who participated in extra-curricular activities, such as football and cross country running. When it came to girls, Christian Grey was a completely normal teenage boy; he had crushes on girls and liked to think about dating, but he wasn’t obsessed with sex, like many of his peers. In an interview with Rolling Stone, Grey spoke about how he viewed Anastasia Steele, his main character in the novel, “Fifty Shades of Grey.” He said that while he found her appeal “addictive,” he never actually viewed himself in any way like Christian Grey and that he never wanted to be abusive like him. He went on to say that he hoped his fans would see him as a “good guy” and that he wanted to be known for being “an ally to the LGBTQ community and to all victims of abuse.”
Unfortunately, while some men may see Christian Grey as a role model, his behavior is anything but acceptable, and it’s changed the way many men, as well as their partners, view sex and women. In fact, studies have shown that after having a sexual encounter with a woman, men are less likely to say that sex is pleasurable and more likely to say that it’s a chore, or that they’re in it just to protect themselves from infection. Furthermore, they’re more likely to feel that women are inferior, and that they shouldn’t be trusted. While these attitudes and feelings may not be prevalent everywhere, there is still a significant amount of men around the country who agree with Grey, which is why it’s so important for the general public to learn about his history and how he’s changed. Most importantly, it’s vital that men are able to see themselves as something other than what Grey wants them to be, and that they can embrace the good qualities that they possess, instead of hiding them because he told them to.
Is Christian Grey A Victim?
Although he’s changed for the better, there is still something terribly wrong with Christian Grey; in fact, he is a victim of sexual abuse, as he was forced to grow up quickly, without the emotional support and stability that many children need to develop properly. The lack of stability in his childhood is what caused Christian Grey to become obsessed with sex and power, as he never felt that he fully belonged anywhere or with anyone. Without proper boundaries, it’s easy for adults to step in and take over your life, which is exactly what Christian Grey did to a large number of men and their partners. It’s also important to keep in mind that while he may not have intended for these men to follow his instructions, he did intend to use them as a form of manipulation; in other words, he wants them to play along, while he plays the role of the injured, broken man, who needs to be taken care of and protected.
What Can Men Do To Change?
For the better part of a decade, Christian Grey has been telling men that it’s okay to be obsessed with sex and that they shouldn’t feel bad about it. He says that he wishes that he could go back and undo the damage that he caused by seducing men and humiliating them, particularly when it came to their sexuality. While he wants them to see him as a changed man, he also wants them to see themselves as powerful sexual beings, capable of having enjoyable sex with hot, voluptuous women. In other words, he wants them to see themselves as he sees himself.
As we mentioned before, a significant number of men feel emasculated by having sex with this type of woman, who usually exude power and control. To that end, it’s important for men to see that it’s not their fault that Grey dominated their mind and forced them to engage in sex acts that they didn’t want to perform, or to which they feel unqualified. In an interview with Rolling Stone, Grey said that while he doesn’t want to “ruin” men’s sex lives or turn them away from women, he also doesn’t want to “impose” himself on them, either. He wants them to see that he is an ally and that what they’re doing is okay. He continued, “I guess what I’m trying to say is that I want men to see me as a victim, but I don’t want to be patronizing, because I’m not a victim. I’m a survivor.”
Whether or not you believe that Grey deserves to be called a victim or survivor of sexual abuse is up to you. What’s important is that men see that it was abusive behavior that they’re not proud of and that they want to change.