Most men can’t live without Viagra. The little blue pill has changed the life of many a sinner. But what happens when your significant other doesn’t share your love for creamy blue packages? Does your relationship need to be saved?
Just because your lover doesn’t like taking pills, doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like having sex. Chances are, he has a healthy sexual appetite too. So, if you want to keep things hot in the bedroom, you may need to convince him to try some new forms of contraception.
Luckily, there are alternative ways to keep your sexual health in check. You just have to be sure to try them out before your doctor recommends a prescription pill. We’re talking about natural methods of contraception here, so if you want to avoid pharmaceuticals, these are the options for you.
Condoms
Of course, we can’t talk about healthy relationships without talking about safe sex. So let’s start there. Condoms are one of the oldest forms of birth control. And, based on the principle of “use what you know,” it’s the simplest method to learn how to use condoms correctly.
Yes, there are different kinds of condoms. But the most fundamental rule is to always use a latex condom. Latex condoms feel slippery on your partner’s cock, which makes him feel that he is literally sliding in skin. This sensation is highly motivating for most men. So if your boyfriend is a bit of a slaver, this may be the trick to keep him in line.
Latex condoms also feel great against the skin, and this coupled with the sensation that your lover is literally inside you is a powerful aphrodisiac. If your partner doesn’t like the feeling of being inside you, latex may not be the best solution. But, if you think he’s just shy, or you want to protect yourself from STIs, then this could be the perfect solution.
Breath Play
Breath play is another great method of self-pleasure that has been shown to be highly effective. All you need for this game are some small, private spaces, like your bedside or a bathroom. You can even set up a tent in the living room if you want to be extra private.
Simply put, you and your partner communicate your desires. You want to start by kissing and caressing one another. Once you’re comfortable with that, you can move on to more erotic acts. You can use your hand, mouth, or whatever feels best for you. Don’t rush it, go at your own pace. You want to make sure that both of you feel comfortable with what is happening. And if you want to spice things up, use some lube to make the experience more slippery, but not too slick.
Role Play
You can also try role play. This is when one partner takes on the role of someone they’re familiar with. For example, if your lover is a bit of a macho man, you could take on the role of a submissive female. Or if you’re into a bit of a thrill, you could be the one who gets a thrill from tying your partner up and watching him squirm.
The important thing in role play is communication. You both need to feel that you’re on the same page with regard to what is going on. And remember, it’s not easy being in the submissive role, so make sure that your partner is used to taking charge. Even if you both love a good power struggle, role play isn’t the same as actually putting yourself in a situation where you feel powerless. If anything goes wrong, it can be extremely distressing. So, take things slowly and make sure that your partner is okay with what is happening. If you’re not sure whether or not he’s okay with it, then ask him. Don’t be shy!
Cumming Aloud
Speaking of being shy, let’s talk about cumming aloud. You’ve heard the expression “heavenly orgasm,” haven’t you? It’s exactly what it sounds like — an orgasm so intense that it causes the person having it to speak. Well, the same thing can happen with a silent orgasm. These are the kinds of orgasms that are most effective when performed on yourself. And trust me, there is nothing more erotic than masturbating in front of your lover.
So, if you want to surprise him with an orgasm, then start by playing with your nipples. Or, if you’re using a vibrator, tease him by putting it on the lowest speed, and then gradually increase the tempo. When you hit your peak, let out a loud hurrah and feel free to scream or shout whatever comes to your mind. Doing this in front of your partner will certainly drive him wild!
Anal Play
Anal play is another great way to add some kink to your sex life. And if you’re into a little bit of a challenge, you can also use protection during the act to add another layer of excitement. The most fundamental rule of anal play is to always use a water-based lubricant, and, as always, make sure that condoms are used correctly.
Just imagine how good anal play would be with a skilled Domina Lucia. You would begin by kneeling before your girlfriend/mistress. Using your tongue, you would lap at her pussy. Then, you would gently finger her ass crack. When she is wet and warm, you would take her finger and enter her. Thrusting and rocking back and forth, you would fuck her doggy style. At any point during the session, you could pull out and spray your cock with a generous amount of lubricant. Then, resuming your position, you would sit back and let your orgasm take over.
Anal intercourse is very similar to regular fucking. The only difference is that you are going down on your partner instead of him going down on you. Start out slow and gentle, taking your time to really explore her asshole with your tongue. When you think she’s ready, pull out and slowly position the tip of your cock at the entrance of her ass. Gently push in, and, as you continue to thrust, tighten your anal muscles reflexively. Remember to always use a water-based lubricant and make sure that condoms are not broken or torn.
Vibrator Play
If you like the feeling of vibrating cocks, then you can try out vibrator play. The great thing about vibrator play is that it is a great way to introduce a new dimension to foreplay. Instead of just your fingers, you can use a vibe to provide an extra thrill. And, if you’re feeling extra adventurous, you could also use a vibe on your nipples, or anywhere else on your body that you want to feel the extra pleasure. Vibrator play is a great way to gradually increase the intensity of your relationship, as a sort of preview of what is to come. Once you’re used to the initial sensation, you can move on to more traditional foreplay. But, for now, have fun experimenting!
Of course, these are just some of the things you can try out. The important thing to remember is that, just because your partner doesn’t like taking pills or using condoms, doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like having sex. Most importantly, make sure that you both feel comfortable with whatever it is that you’re doing. If there is any doubt in your mind regarding what is permissible, then you should probably err on the side of caution. Of course, if you’re both into some really kinky shit that you feel confident enough to try out, then go for it! Just be sure that everything is consensual and that you both feel able to stop at any time. Remember, you’re playing, and you might end up hurt if you don’t take care. So make sure that you’re both protected and that you know what you’re doing. If anything goes wrong, then it’s important to know how to have healthy, safe sex again.